Just some rantings from depression. When I was in high school & university I kept a code that whenever someone ask me to lend them some money, I would either give it away and don't ask for return, or just decline if it's too much. I didn't know was so much wiser back then. When I started working and got more money, I started treating money less seriously. Before I knew it I was lending out more money than I earn each month, and the proverb keep proving itself true time and time again. Everyone has his own problems, and usually when comparing their current problem with a on-the-fly promise, the little promise just doesn't seem that important. Last time I worked oversea, a lot of my friends asked me to help them buy stuffs. How eager they were, some even filled out the shopping cart for me and I only had to finishing the transaction. When I came back to Vietnam, I had to go to every single house to give them their packages and get my money back. Some even took the package and delay payment until a month later. They are always nice and cool at the beginning, and cold and distant at the end. It's always them coming to your house to loan money, and you chasing them around for the pay. Due to family problem I'm in a shortage of money right now. My headphone just broke last week and I don't have the money to buy a new one. I'm using a hand-me-down computer that is pretty fucked up, but I can't afford even a replacement part at the moment. No shit I even have to calculate how much money I will need to eat this month. But at the same time I still have several debtors. Each of them doesn't owe me much, but the sum of that could easily solve all the problems I have. That is, if they pay me. Dealing with one debtor is tiresome enough, having to chase 4 people around... I don't have the time and willpower to do that. It is both frustrating and saddening that you have to treat your friends like thieves, I just can't bring myself to do that. But I can't do nothing. Because even if I don't want to do anything I still have to count the money I have left until I starve to death. The problem is, I'm in no position to lecture them. I still remember borrowing money from a person here on GVN, and ended up completely forgot about it until 2 YEARS later when she had to ask for it. Of course I did compensate for the late payment, but it didn't make me feel any less uncomfortable. I'm not outside the circle. I'm just another shit. So, I guess from now on I should just stick to the code I had in high school days. Live so I don't have to borrow money from anyone, or to lend out money to anyone.
Well I'd say you can lecture them. You didn't deny the responsibility when she mentioned it, while your friends ended up being cold at the end. I'm sure she didn't mind the late payment. It might even be her intention from the start.
Hey thanks FE, that make me feel a lot better :) Somehow I ended up getting terrible diarrhea this morning, and believe it or not with a more "urgent matter" to attend to I don't feel as bothered as I was last night about the debt. Hard to tell if that's good or bad ;_;
I won't be able to discuss further about your stinky savior, but yeah be more careful with your savings. I am never keen on lending money, but still got some bastards run away with the debts; shame; being men they're supposed to be reliable, not that. Hope you can still stay carefree after this. Some of the people I know have gradually become too dry and stingy that I am not sure I could consider them friends anymore. Btw I am in really bad shape at the moment as well but I would demand elegant cure lol....
Why did you even pay for the package lol Just transporting goods for them is already more than enough favor
I had been careless about money, too... But then I became an manipulative, greedy bastard whence some "friends" took advantage of me. Now I'm way far less frequent when it comes to lending pp a hand out of good will. And I'm good with it. And wow, no sarcasm but your sign perfectly fit the story itself, VAT
That sucks, I was in the same situation but I'm glad I make much more now the lost money seems negligible, hah. Edit: what I mean is that years later you might just laugh at this shit, so chill up
Happy new year to you guys! I just sold my fucking stack of gold for a shitload of money. Now I'm rich again thanks whoever thought out ngày thần tài or whatever it is lol =)
You didn't seem to understand. I'm the one who stockpiled gold before new year and sell them all 1 day after Ngày thần tài.
Ah OK lol I read only the headline the other day so all I remember is there being an event involving selling or buying gold in HN, don't know about the details tho Anyway, good for you. Good luck with handling your money in the future bro!
